Wife - Marriage Counseling Questionnaire - Marriage by the Bible

MARRIAGE BY THE BIBLE
Questions for the wife.

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Do you love your husband? Yes No

Do you love your husband (and everything else) second to Yeshua (Jesus’ given Hebrew name) the Christ? Is Yeshua first in your life? Yes No

Other than Yeshua, is your husband more important to you than anyone or anything else? Yes No

Provided your husband does not ask you to do something ungodly, are you submissive to him as you are to Yeshua? Yes No

Are you subject to your husband in everything without complaint, even when you think he has made a bad decision or shown poor judgment? Yes No

Are you submissive to your husband, even when he’s treated you badly? Yes No

Are you subject to your husband in public? Yes No

Do you respect your husband? Yes No

Do you honor your husband above yourself? Yes No

Do you seek his advice and counsel? Yes No

Do you obey your husband? Yes No

Do you serve your husband? Yes No

Are you striving to become one with your husband in all areas (spiritually, physically, emotionally, mentally and socially)? Yes No

Do you ever threaten divorce? Yes No

Have you ever committed adultery? Yes No

Are you a companion to your husband? Yes No

Do you respond to your husband’s sexual needs? Yes No

Are you jealous of your husband? Yes No

Do you trust your husband? Yes No

Do you assist your husband? Yes No

Do you bear your husband’s burdens? Yes No

Are you rude or offensive? Yes No

Are you vindictive? Yes No

Are you forgiving? Yes No

Do you confess your faults to your husband? Yes No

Is your behavior and lifestyle drawing your husband nearer to Yeshua? Are you helping him become more spiritual? Yes No

Do you encourage your husband daily? Yes No

Do you pray for your husband? Yes No

Do you allow your husband to teach you? Yes No

Is your behavior pure and respectful? Yes No

Do you display a gentle and quiet spirit? Yes No

Are you self-controlled and sensible? Yes No

Are you kind? Yes No

Do you neglect home responsibilities? Yes No

Do you argue or nag? Yes No

Do you use good judgment? Yes No

Are you trustworthy? Yes No

Do you contribute to your husband’s success? Yes No

Are you a grumbler or complainer? Yes No

Do you search for ways to please your husband? Yes No

Do you put your family’s needs above your own? Yes No

Are you wise with money? Yes No

Do you strive to be healthy? Yes No

Do you have a good self-image in Christ? Yes No

Are you generous to those less blessed? Yes No

Do you prepare for the future? Yes No

Do you maintain your appearance? Yes No

Are you enterprising and industrious? Yes No

Do you face life with optimism? Yes No

Do you think before you speak? Yes No

Are you lazy? Yes No

Are you patient? Yes No

Are you unselfish? Yes No

Is your love unfailing? Yes No

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Does your husband love you? Yes No

Does your husband love you (and everything else) second to Yeshua the Christ? Is Yeshua first in his life? Yes No

Does your husband love you sacrificially? Yes No

Does your husband care for you as your husband does his own body? Yes No

Does your husband regard you with the same importance as he does himself?

Yes No

Other than Yeshua, are you more important to your husband than anyone or anything else? Yes No

Is your husband striving to become one with you in all areas (spiritually, physically, emotionally, mentally and socially)? Yes No

Does your husband serve you? Yes No

Does your husband show appreciation for you? Yes No

Does your husband ever threaten divorce? Yes No

Has your husband ever committed adultery? Yes No

Does your husband respond to your sexual needs? Yes No

Is your husband still aroused by your physical features? Yes No

Is your husband the leader in your home, spiritually, as well as physically?

Yes No

Is your husband’s behavior and lifestyle drawing you nearer to Yeshua? Is he helping you become more spiritual? Yes No

Does your husband teach and encourage you daily? Yes No

Does your husband bear your burdens? Yes No

Does your husband pray for you? Yes No

Does your husband provide financially for you and your family? Yes No

Does your husband trust you? Yes No

Does your husband praise you both privately and publicly? Yes No

Does your husband give you freedom for self-expression? Yes No

Is your husband understanding and sympathetic? Yes No

Does your husband honor you? Yes No

Is your husband kind? Yes No

Is your husband vindictive? Yes No

Is your husband forgiving? Yes No

Does your husband confess his faults to you? Yes No

Does your husband spend recreational time with you? Yes No

Is your husband patient? Yes No

Is your husband jealous of you? Yes No

Is your husband rude or offensive? Yes No

Is your husband unselfish? Yes No

Is your husband’s love unfailing? Yes No

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Do you love your husband?

...teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children...—Titus 2:4

Do you love your husband (and everything else) second to Yeshua the Christ? Is Yeshua first in your life?

If thy brother, the son of thy mother, or thy son, or thy daughter, or the wife of thy bosom, or thy friend, which is as thine own soul, entice thee secretly, saying, Let us go and serve other gods, which thou hast not known, thou, nor thy fathers … thou shalt not consent unto him, nor hearken unto him….— Deuteronomy 13:6-8

Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth YHWH, she shall be praised.—Proverbs 31:30

He that loveth father or mother more than me is not worthy of me: and he that loveth son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me. And he that taketh not his cross, and followeth after me, is not worthy of me.—Matthew 10:37-38

Other than Yeshua, is your husband more important to you than anyone or anything?

Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.—Genesis 2:24

Provided your husband does not ask you to do something ungodly, are you submissive to him as you are to Yeshua?

Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.—Ephesians 5:22

Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord.—Colossians 3:18

Are you subject to your husband in everything without complaint, even when you think he has made a bad decision or shown poor judgment?

Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.—Ephesians 5:24

Let the woman learn in silence with all subjection.—1 Timothy 2:11

Are you submissive to your husband, even when he’s treated you badly?

Servants, be submissive to your masters with all respect, not only to those who are good and gentle, but also to those who are unreasonable…. For what credit is there if, when you sin and are harshly treated, you endure it with patience? But if when you do what is right and suffer for it you patiently endure it, this finds favor with God. …since Christ also suffered for you, leaving you an example for you to follow in His steps…. In the same way, you wives, be submissive to your own husbands so that even if any of them are disobedient to the word, they may be won without a word by the behavior of their wives….—1 Peter 2:18-3:1, NASB

Are you subject to your husband in public?

Let your women keep silence in the churches ... but they are commanded to be under obedience, as also saith the law.—1 Corinthians 14:34

...obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.—Titus 2:5

Do you respect your husband?

...and let the wife see to it that she respect her husband.—Ephesians 5:33, NASB

Do you honor your husband above yourself?

But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man....—1 Corinthians 11:3

A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband: but she that maketh ashamed is as rottenness in his bones.—Proverbs 12:4

Do you seek his advice and counsel?

Let your women keep silence in the churches ... but they are commanded to be under obedience, as also saith the law. And if they will learn any thing, let them ask their husbands at home....—1 Corinthians 14:34-35

Do you obey your husband?

Let your women keep silence in the churches ... but they are commanded to be under obedience, as also saith the law.—1 Corinthians 14:34

For in this way in former times the holy women also, who hoped in God, used to adorn themselves, being submissive to their own husbands. Thus Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, and you have become her children if you do what is right without being frightened by any fear.—1 Peter 3:5-6, NASB

Do you serve your husband?

...But by love serve one another.—Galatians 5:13

Are you striving to become one with him in all areas (spiritually, physically, emotionally, mentally and socially)?

...For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh. Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh….—Matthew 19:5-6

Do you ever threaten divorce?

...What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.—Matthew 19:6

And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, let not the wife depart from her husband.—1 Corinthians 7:10

Love ... endures all things. Love never fails....—1 Corinthians 13:7-8, NASB

Have you ever committed adultery?

Thou shalt not commit adultery.—Exodus 20:14

Drink water from your own cistern, and fresh water from your own well. Should your springs be dispersed abroad, streams of water in the streets? Let them be yours alone, and not for strangers with you.—Proverbs 5:15-17, NASB

Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.—Hebrews 13:4

Are you a companion to your husband?

...but for Adam there was not found an help meet for your husband. And ... the rib, which YHWH God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man.—Genesis 2:20-22

Do you respond to his sexual needs?

My beloved is mine, and I am his....—Song of Solomon 2:16

Let the husband fulfill his duty to his wife, and likewise also the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does; and likewise also the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Stop depriving one another, except by agreement for a time that you may devote yourselves to prayer....—1 Corinthians 7:3-5, NASB

Are you jealous of your husband?

Love is … not jealous.—1 Corinthians 13:4, NASB

Do you trust your husband?

Love … believes all things.—1 Corinthians 13:4-7, NASB

Do you assist your husband?

...but for Adam there was not found an help meet for him.... And the rib, which YHWH God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man.—Genesis 2:20-22

Bear ye one another’s burdens, and so fulfil the law of Christ.—Galatians 6:2

Do you bear his burdens?

Bear ye one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ.—Galatians 6:2

Are you rude or offensive?

Love ... does not act unbecomingly.—1 Corinthians 13:5, NASB

Are you vindictive?

Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith YHWH.—Romans 12:19

Love ... is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered.—1 Corinthians 13:4-5, NASB

[Yeshua] Who, when he was reviled, reviled not again; when he suffered, he threatened not; but committed himself to him that judgeth righteously.... Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands.—1 Peter 2:23-3:1

Are you forgiving?

For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you: But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.—Matthew 6:14-15

…For in the way you judge, you will be judged; and by your standard of measure, it will be measured to you.—Matthew 7:2, NASB

And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.—Ephesians 4:32

Do you confess your faults to your husband?

Confess your faults one to another...—James 5:16

Is your lifestyle drawing your husband nearer to Yeshua? Are you helping him become more spiritual?

…let us consider how to stimulate one another to love and good deeds.—Hebrews 10:24, NASB

In the same way, you wives, be submissive to your own husbands so that even if any of them are disobedient to the word, they may be won without a word by the behavior of their wives.—1 Peter 3:1, NASB

Do you encourage your husband daily?

But exhort one another daily, while it is called Today; lest any of you be hardened through the deceitfulness of sin.—Hebrews 3:13

Do you pray for your husband?

...pray for one another....—James 5:16

Do you allow your husband to teach you?

…if they will learn any thing, let them ask their husbands at home….—1 Corinthians 14:35

Let the woman learn in silence with all subjection.—1 Timothy 2:11

Is your behavior pure and respectful?

In the same way, you wives, be submissive to your own husbands so that even if any of them are disobedient to the word, they may be won without a word by the behavior of their wives, as they observe your chaste and respectful behavior.—1 Peter 3:1-2, NASB

...teach the young women ... to be discreet, chaste....—Titus 2:4-5

Do you display a gentle and quiet spirit?

And let not your adornment be merely external − braiding the hair, and wearing gold jewelry, or putting on dresses; but let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in the sight of God.—1 Peter 3:3-4, NASB

Let the woman learn in silence with all subjection.—1 Timothy 2:11

Are you sensible?

...encourage the young women to … be sensible….—Titus 2:4-5, NASB

Are you kind?

Love is … kind….—1 Corinthians 13:4, NASB)

…encourage the young women ... to be ... kind.—Titus 2:4-5, NASB

Do you neglect home responsibilities?

She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.—Proverbs 31:27

...encourage the young women … to be … workers at home.—Titus 2:4-5

Do you argue or nag?

...the contentions of a wife are a continual dripping.—Proverbs 19:13

It is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman in a wide house.—Proverbs 21:9

It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman.—Proverbs 21:19

Do you use good judgment?

..a prudent wife is from YHWH.—Proverbs 19:14

As a ring of gold in a swine's snout, so is a beautiful woman who lacks discretion.—Proverbs 11:22

Are you trustworthy?

Who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is far above rubies. The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her....—Proverbs 31:10-11

Do you contribute to your husband’s success?

The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain.—Proverbs 31:11

Are you a grumbler or complainer?

She ... worketh willingly with her hands.—Proverbs 31:13

Do all things without grumbling or disputing.—Philippians 2:14, NASB

Do you search for ways to please your husband?

She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life…. She is like the merchants’ ships; she bringeth her food from afar.—Proverbs 31:12-14

Do you put your family’s needs above your own?

She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household.—Proverbs 31:15

Are you wise with money?

She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.—Proverbs 31:16

Do you strive to be healthy?

She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.—Proverbs 31:17

Do you have a good self-image in Christ?

She senses that her gain is good....—Proverbs 31:18

Are you generous to those less blessed?

She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff. She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.—Proverbs 31:19-20

Do you prepare for the future?

She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.—Proverbs 31:21

Do you maintain your appearance?

She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.—Proverbs 31:22

Are you enterprising and industrious?

She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.—Proverbs 31:24

Do you face life with optimism?

Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.—Proverbs 31:25

Do you think before you speak?

She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.—Proverbs 31:26

Are you lazy?

She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.—Proverbs 31:27

Are you patient?

Love is patient….—1 Corinthians 13:4, NASB

Are you unselfish?

Love … does not seek its own….—1 Corinthians 13:4-5, NASB

Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind let each of you regard one another as more important than himself; do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others. Have this attitude in yourselves which was also in Christ Jesus.—Philippians 2:3-5, NASB

Is your love unfailing?

Love never fails….—1 Corinthians 13:4-8, NASB

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